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Hey guys,

Welcome again!!!!!

It's been a long time we didn't seen each other. Since I am not a full time blogger I face few difficulties while posting on blog. Because of personal problems and work related issue I was not able to write on my blog. I offer my sincere apologies for that. In couple of days I am going to post a book review. Please keep supporting me.

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Your,

Guru Bargaje

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BOOK 7 : MAN'S SEARCH FOR MEANING

BOOK NAME: MAN'S SEARCH FOR MEANING
AUTHOR: VIKTOR E. FRANKEL
PUBLICATION: RIDER BOOKS
GENRE:PSYCHOLOGY/SPIRITUALITY



 
                     


Few lines from book:

"Love goes very far beyond the physical person of the beloved. It finds its deepest meaning in his spiritual being, his inner self. Weather or not he is actually present , weather or not he is still alive at all, ceases somehow to be of importance."

" It did not matter what we expected from life. What matter is what life expected from us"

" A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears towards a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work,will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the "why" for his existence,and will be able to bear almost any"how" ".

WHEN i picked up this book i assumed that this will be normal story but as soon as started turning the pages i started feeling it. It is not just a normal story but a series of very terrible experiences. Its like an autobiography of the author who have gone through pain of concentration camp in world war. Some of the experiences described by author were quiet frightening. One starts questioning the value of human life. Sometimes this book feels depressing but still dont want to put that aside.
This book seems like autobiography cum psychology of human being. All over the book just one thought was coming in front of me again and again.  THE THOUGHT OF MEANING. Any person, no matter in which condition he or she is living must have reason or the aim for life. Without aim or reason life is meaningless. If person is tied with meaning then no matter what happens he will survive in that condition.
"he who has known why to live will eventually find out how to live."

SECOND part of book explains about "logotherapy" used for psycho analysis. Those who are interested in non-fiction and that too serious stuff can read this book.  This book tells us that suffering do comes in our life. That is not in our hand. But what we can do is to choose, how to respond to it.   This is not so fun to read this book. I could not read this with single sitting even though its a small book.
 But for the people in psychology and psychoanalysis this may prove a great book.
All the best. Happy reading.

Thanks,
Guru Bargaje
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BOOK 6 : RICH DAD POOR DAD

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BOOK NAME: RICH DAD POOR DAD   what the rich teach their kids about money- that the poor and middle class do not
AUTHOR: ROBERT T. KIYOSAKI
PUBLICATION: PLATA PUBLISHING

THERE are plenty of books about financial literacy but very few of them are much easy to understand by the common people like us. With layman's approach everyone of us should be guided regarding financial literacy. Every one of us should know and understand the concept of investing and way to implement those concepts in order to gain proper results through it.
I think the author has been successful in convincing what ever he wanted to deliver to us. Simplicity and to the point approach makes this book even more interesting. Chapter by chapter Robert T. Kiyosaki teaches us the ways we can make money and the way by which we end us loosing money and the ways how we can avoid it.
Though this book has many key points that should be taken note of. Some of them I liked can be summarized below

1)Rich people understand the concept of asset and liability and are capable of differentiate between them. Most of the time poor people end up purchasing liability and consider it as an asset. Rich people are very smart at understanding asset and liability. Rich accumulate assets and reduces liability. In order to gain financial independence one should focus on increasing assets and reducing liability.

 2) There are three types of income
         a) Hard earned money
         b) Portfolio
         c) Passive income
Now most of the people get income from their job. This is their hard earned money which is highly taxed and moreover this is the money they work for so this will merely makes any difference in their life.
Portfolio income is income generated by stocks, bonds etc.
And the third income is passive income which is mostly generated by real estates etc. Author wants us to focus on later two types of incomes.

3)Income generated from portfolio and passive income has money work for them. This is the beauty of this income. This is the money which work for you. As per the author rich don't work for money,rather they have money which work for them.

4) Money is made when buying and not while selling.

5) Rich always try to find other ways for income. They do not have one source of income. Possibly they may have one income from profession and another from business. Author says profession and business are two different things.

6) Rich buy luxury from their return of money got through investments. They first invest,earn and spend but the poor people mostly earn through primary income which is mostly job, they spend and if possible they invest the leftover.

7) Rich first pay to themselves ,meaning they focus on investments first and later they focus on other spending.

8) Rich focus on learning new things over time. They invest their time and money learning new things which yields them good return in future.

9) Try to analyse, understand and capture opportunity. Disaster for one can be opportunity to another. Try to figure out which is on your side. In real instate or in stock market crash is a disaster but for investor this can be an opportunity.

10) Work and stay with people who are rich with great ideas and also keep in touch with the failure peoples. Both are beneficial. Former help to plan and understand future and opens up new set of opportunity if seen carefully. Later may guide you what not to do to avoid failure.

Reading this book i came to know about my financial mistakes. I wished I would have read this book earlier. But its fine. Its better late then never. I think as a beginner in financial planning one should look at this book at least once. I know reading books takes much efforts and time but trust me this will bring good results over a long time.

Thanks,
Guru Bargaje
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Book 5: विवेकाची पताका घेऊ खांद्यावरी

पुस्तकाचे नाव: विवेकाची पताका घेऊ खांद्यावरी
लेखक: डाॅ. नरेंद्र दाभोलकर
प्रकाषक: दिलीपराज प्रकाशन प्रा. लि.

काही पुस्तके अशी असतात जी फक्त पानांचा संग्रह न ठरता विचारांचा उद्रेक ठरतात. त्यातल्या त्यात जेव्हा ती पुस्तके सद्य परिस्थितीशी साधर्म्य दाखवणारी असतात तेव्हा आपोआपच त्यांच मोल कैकपटीने वाढतं. हे पुस्तक म्हणजे असाच विचारांचा एक विस्फोटक खजिना आहे. यातील एक एक लेख वाचताना आपण किती पुरोगामी (?) आहोत याची जाणीव प्रकर्षाने होते.

अंधश्रद्धा म्हटले की आपल्याला फक्त बुवाबाजी आठवते. खरं तर बुवाबाजी ही अंधश्रद्धेच्या अनेक बाजुंपैकी एक बाजू झाली. अंधश्रद्धेची तशी एक ढोबळ व्याख्या करायची झाली तर ती अशी करता येईल. ज्या गोष्टीला कुठलाही कार्यकारणभाव नाही त्या गोष्टी ला अनुसरण करणे म्हणजे अंधश्रद्धा. यावर तथाकथित लोक जे स्वतःला धर्माचे पाईक व रक्षक समजतात त्यांचा विरोध होतो, कारण कार्यकरण भाव लावणारा माणूस विचार करायला लागतो. आणि जो व्यक्ती विचार करायला लागतो तो प्रश्न विचारायला लागतो. आणि प्रश्न विचारणारे अनुयायी कोणालाच नको असतात. याचं कारण अगदी साधं आहे. विचार करणारं मन कधी मानसिक गुलामीत राहत नाही.
आणि याचा परिणाम सरळसरळ हित संबंधावर होतो.
मग काय करायचं तर सर्व सामान्य माणसाला अश्या गोष्टींमध्ये अडकाऊन टाकायचं कि त्यांनी विचार च केला नाही पाहिजे. जरी एखादा माणूस देवा बद्दल किंवा धर्माबद्दल काही चिकित्सक बोलत असेल तर त्याला धर्मद्रोही ठरवलं जातं. 
आपण बऱ्याच लोकांकडून ऐकले असेल किंवा वाचलं असेल कि या या बुवाबाबा कडुन आर्थिक, मानसिक किंवा शारीरिक त्रास झाला किंवा फसवणूक झाली तेव्हा असे का होते याचा विचार केला तर असे लक्षात येईल की त्यांच्या कडे जाणारा व्यक्ती कुठे तरी एक आधार शोधत असतो. आधाराच्या शोधात ती व्यक्ती इतकी गुरफटून जाते की आपली कोणी फसवणूक करत आहे हेच मुळी लक्षात येत नाही. अशा वेळी हे हितचिंतक (?) वेगवेगळ्या मार्गाने ,आलेल्या लोकांना असे काही संमोहित करतात कि लुटणारे बुवाबाबा च त्यांना त्यांचे मसिहा वाटायला लागतात.
मग यावर काय करायचं याचा उपचार डॉ. नरेंद्र दाभोलकरांनी अगोदरच सांगितलाय. अंधश्रद्धा निर्मूलन समिती याची काळजी घेते कि कोणाचीही अशा व इतर गैरमार्गाने फसवणूक होऊ नये. 
या चळवळीची एक चतु:सुस्त्री आहे. 
१) शोषण करणाऱ्या, दिशाभूल करणाऱ्या अंधश्रद्धांना विरोध करणे;
२) वैज्ञानिक दृष्टिकोनाचा प्रचार करणे व त्या आधारे विविध घटना तपासणे;
३) धर्माची विधायक कृतिशील चिकित्सा करणे म्हणजे धर्माबद्दल काही आकलन व धर्मनिरपेक्षतेचा वेगळा दृष्टीकोन रुजविणे;
४) व्यापक परिवर्तनाचे भान जागृत करणे,सजग करणे.

या मुख्यतः चार उपाययोजना करुन अंधश्रद्धांना बऱ्यापैकी आळा घालणं शक्य आहे. अंधश्रद्धा निर्मूलनासाठी केवळ शिक्षणाने फरक पडत नाही तर त्यासाठी आपली मानसिकता बदलण्याची गरज आहे. कारण आजच्या (२१ शतक चक्क) काळात हि घर आपण बांधून घेतो पण त्याची शांती(?) केल्या शिवाय राहत नाही. अगदि तसेच अशिक्षित सोडा पण शिकलेल्या लोकांच्या अंगात येते,आम्हि वाहनाला लिंबु - मिरची लावतो, कुठल्याही शेंदुर लावलेल्या दगडाच्या पाया पडतो, आजही काही गावांमध्ये आजारी पडल्यावर जाणत्या चा सल्ला घेतला जातो. या सगळ्या गोष्टी आपल्या पुरोगामी (?) महाराष्ट्रात घडतात पाहुन आपल्या समाजाच्या मानसिक दारिद्रयाची किव येते.
अंधश्रद्धेचा अतिरेक कधी कधी निरपराध लोकांचा जीव घेतो. या सगळ्या गोष्टी पासुन जर विकास करता आला असता तर आपल्याला विज्ञानाची गरज पडली नसती.
थोडासा विचार केला तरी लक्षात येईल की हा सगळा वैयक्तिक स्वार्थ साधण्यासाठी केलेला प्रकार आहे.अशा लोकांपासून सावध व्हायला हवं.
अंधश्रद्धेविरुद्ध ची लढाई सोपी नाही कारण बुवाबाजी आज परमोच्च बिंदू ला पोचली आहे. तोंडी प्रचारा पासुन ते डिजिटल प्रचारा पर्यंत यांची मजल पोचली आहे. सोबत त्यांचे लाखो अनुयायी तर असतातच. हे लाखो अनुयायी आपली मतपेटि बनलेली कोनाला नाही आवडणार? मग या सर्व प्रकाराला राजकीय मुक संमती दिली जाते. आजुबाजुला थोडी नजर टाकली तर आपल्याला ते लक्षात येईल. मग काय करायचं? शांत बसायचं का? तर बिलकुल नाही. आजच्या घडीला आपण स्वत: पासुन सुरुवात करु शकतो. आपण एवढेच करायचं कि ढोंगी लोकांना ओळखुन त्यांना आपल्या व आपल्या परिवाराच्या आजूबाजूला फिरकु द्यायचं नाही.
Start it small and make it large.
कारण परिवार हा समाजाचा प्रारंभ आहे.

पण ढोंगी कोण आणि साधु कोण हे कसं ठरवायचं? मग खालील शब्द नीट वाचा.

" जे का रंजले गांजले, त्यासी म्हणे जो आपुले,
तोचि साधु ओळखावा, देव तेथेची जानावा."

-धन्यवाद,
गुरू बारगजे
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Book 4: The Monk who sold his Ferrari

Book: the monk who sold his Ferrari
Author: Robin Sharma
Publication: jaico books

                                      

" what lies ahead of you and what lies behind you is of least important than what lies inside you''

When I read the title of the book, I was forced to think about it. I mean "the monk" who have sold his "Ferrari" ? Even if he have sold his Ferrari the question is still there, if he is monk then why does he has a Ferrari. Why does monk holdings a material possession like a Ferrari.
Well after turning few pages I was getting some clue.
This is a story of a person who is super successful in view of world. He has a good career, prestige,money, a big house, costly cars etc..you name it and he got it.
But even though he is holding such a big property and name he was too much unhappy from within.
The person name is Julian mantle. He was so sick from within that reflections of his weak mind was reflecting on his body. He was looking much older than his age.
One day after he collapsed in a packed courtroom and got admitted in hospital something struck to his mind. It was like a wake up call for him.everything happening like a drama movie scene. He sold all his material possessions and he traveled to East. Gathering wisdom of knowledge he traveled all over country. Finally settled at one tiny village where he met with a person named Yogi Krishnan. Krishnan was also a lawyer who left his job and left everything in search of knowledge that may help him find answers to his questions. Even Julian was searching for the same. But what Julian was expecting yogi Krishnan could not give. Krishnan apologized politely for not helping him even though he wanted to. But yogi Krishnan gave him way where he could get his all answers.
Yogi Krishnan said, there are sages deep in Himalayas who could help him. Julian,after travelling by foot over a week finally got one of the sages named Yogi Raman. Until this point when you read on it seems like a story but from this point onwards every page you turn of this book will give you plentiful knowledge. Much more than what you expected from this amazing book.
Chapter after chapter and point after point you will explore countless wisdom for life Time. At some point of time you would be amazing to know how some simple things can alter your behavior and your surroundings.

Once Julian meets yogi Raman this story converts into knowledge express for life.
This book will make you think about your mind, your thoughts and how they affect our day to day behavior. Even this explains how to get rid of negative thought and be Superior to your former self.
Next few pages will tell you about importance of having a dream for life. Those people who don't have dreams are those people who live life very ordinary and die like that only. They could have done miracle in their life if they could understand what their dreams were. Every single person in this world is unique. Every person has some special capabilities . God sends us to earth for a special reason and with special capabilities. Only thing is some understands this and some not.
Next few pages of this book I think are the most important pages of this book. They explains us about self leadership and how everyone of us can develop ourselves with some small but incremental changes. This changes are regarded as a "rituals".
These are 10 ancient rituals for radiant living. These are
1) Ritual of solitude
2) Ritual of physicality
3) Ritual of Nourishment
4) Ritual of abundant knowledge
5) Ritual of personal reflection
6) Ritual of early awakening
7) Ritual of music
8) Ritual of spoken word
9) Ritual of congruent character
10) Ritual of simplicity

After reading all these simple rituals I was forced to think about it. If any person follow these rituals I think he or she will be happy- from within. And so far I have read or have been taught that , happiness on outside is just a reflection of happiness inside.

Next chapter explains important of self discipline. While reading this chapter I stopped at following lines. These lines worth reading again and again.

"When you control your thoughts,you control your mind.
When you control your mind, you control your life.
And once you reach the stage of being in total control of your life,

you become the master of your destiny"

But for any change ,when not tied with time limit becomes less valuable. As per this book the time is the most precious commodity in universe. If you don't plan your time wisely you will eventually loose control of your life balance. properly arranged time can bring up  unbelievable change. According to this book, if planned correctly, 80% of results you achieve in your life come from only 20% of activities that occupy your time.
Most of the time true happiness comes from sharing. Life of those people is always fulfilled who think of others. Even a small act of kindness can have a major influence on others. Thinking of others along with ourselves will make this world a better place than before.
Finally author wants to tell us that no matter how good you planned, life will go through it's ups and downs. Enjoy every aspect of life.weather it is good or bad. Embrace change. Don't fear it. Live life as if it is your last day on Earth. Never forget to say thanks for those who matter. No matter how busy you are, ensure that you have time for your friends and family. Because In the end only those things will matter. Be free. Live like a child,worry free. Then only you will enjoy the true colors of life.
- Regards,
Guru bargaje
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Book 3: शेअर बाजार.. जुगार? छे, बुद्धिबळाचा डाव !

पुस्तक: शेअर बाजार... जुगार ?  छे, बुद्धिबळाचा डाव !
लेखक : रविंद्र  देसाई
प्रकाशन : राजहंस प्रकाशन  प्रा. लि.

शेअर म्हटले  कि  आपल्याला फक्त नुकसान झालेले  उदाहरणं  आठवतात...तसे  कारण  ही  आहेच म्हणा. कारण  आपल्या  अवतीभवती जी  काही माणसे  शेअर  मार्केट  चा सल्ला देत असतात त्यांनाच एकतर  या क्षेत्राचा अनुभव  नसतो किंवा फार कमी असतो. मग कोणी तरी  बोलतो कि अमुक अमुक शेअर घ्या आणि हे महाशय शेअर घेऊन टाकतात. मग त्या मागचा कार्यकारणभाव ते लक्षात घेत नाहीत. आपण ते शेअर का घेतले याचा त्यांना काही अंदाज नसतो. जरी आपण विचारले तरी ते स्पष्ट उत्तर देऊ शकत नाहीत. फारफार  ते एवढच म्हणतील कि आम्हाला ते शेअर घ्यायला अनुभवी माणसाने सांगितले आहे किंवा ती कंपनी चांगली आहे. मग नुकसान  झाले कि नशिबाला  दोष देत  राहतात आणि  जगभर  सांगत फिरतील कि शेअर मार्केट म्हणजे  जुगार आहे पण खरंच  तसं  आहे का? एखाद्या कंपनी चा नावलौकिक चांगला आहे म्हणून फक्त्त त्या कंपनी चे शेअर आपण घेणार का? बाजारातून  आपण एकादी गोष्ट घेतो तेव्हा जितकी चौकशी  आपण करतो तेव्हडी चौकशी आपण शेअर घेताना का  करत नाही?
याचं कारण असं कि एकतर शेअर मार्केट  बद्द्ल ची अकारण असलेली  भीती आणि  दुसरं म्हणजे  त्या बद्दल असलेली माहिती मिळवायची कुठून याचं ज्ञान नसणे.
जर  भीती घालवायची असेल  तर मार्केट मध्ये उतरावांच लागेल  आणि त्या  बद्दल माहिती मिळवायची असेल तर मग  हे पुस्तक खास तुमच्या साठी आहे असं समजा.

पुस्तकाबद्दल  थोडंसं :

हे पुस्तक नवख्या गुंतवणूकदारासाठी सुरुवातीचे ज्ञान घेण्यासाठी  अगदी उत्तम आहे  असं मला वाटते. अगदी शेअर म्हणजे  काय इथपासून ते सेन्सेक्स  काय निफ्टी काय, डिलिव्हरी आणि इन्ट्राडे  चे व्यवहार कसे होतात, जेव्हा बाजार कोसळत असतो  म्हणजे  "bear" मार्केट असताना  काय  करायचं आणि  मार्केट  जेव्हा  चढत्या दरावर असते म्हणजे "bull" मार्केट असते तेव्हा काय करायचं  याचं विवेचन अगदी  छान दिलेले आहे.
समजा एखादा शेअर आपल्याला खरेदी करायचा आहे तेव्हा कोणत्या कोणत्या गोष्टी पाहायच्या,कोणत्या गोष्टीला जास्त महत्व द्यायचं याबद्दल ची माहिती खूप छान दिलेली  आहे.

हे पुस्तक कोणासाठी :

हे पुस्तकं त्या सगळ्यांसाठी आहे ज्यांना  शेअर  मार्केट बद्दल माहिती हवी आहे. शेअर मार्केट ची abcd  इथून आपल्याला  कळेल.
काही  मुद्दे जसे कि market cap,earning per share(EPS),dividend, face value, P/E ratio,book value,net sales,other income,PBDIT,net profit,operating profit,reserves,net worth, total liabilities, loans इत्यादी, या बद्दल छान  माहिती  आपल्याला  मिळेल.
फक्त्त  या संज्ञा माहित असून उपयोग नाही. याचा उपयोग  शेअर घेताना कसा करायचा हे माहित असणे गरजेचे आहे. ज्यांना हे कसे वापरायचे हे माहित नाही त्यांच्यासाठी हे पुस्तक आहे असं समजायला हरकत नाही.
अजून एक  महत्वाची  गोष्ट म्हणजे कोणत्याही  कंपनी ची बॅलन्स शीट  वाचता येणे  व त्यातून योग्य तो अर्थ लावता येणे. कोणत्याही  कंपनी ची बॅलन्स शीट आपल्याला  www.Moneycontrol.com या संकेतस्थळावरून मिळवता येईल. एकदा ती मिळाली कि वाचायची कशी ते हे पुस्तक आपल्याला शिकवेल.

काही इतर  गोष्टी :

या पुस्तकामध्ये शेअर  मार्केट च्या ब्रोकर बद्दल तर माहिती दिलेली आहेच पण मार्केट मध्ये इतर  ही काही ब्रोकर आहेत.या पूस्तकामधे लेखकाने sbi  च्या डिमॅट  अकाउंट  बद्दल  सांगितलेले  आहे. मार्केट मधील  इतर काही  ब्रोकरची  नावे :
1) zerodha
2) 5paisa
3) sharekhan
4) Angel  broking  etc

मार्केट  मध्ये इतर ही  ब्रोकर आहेत. ते तुम्हाला साधे  गूगल  वर  शोध करून मिळू शकतात. मी zerodha  या ब्रोकर ला निवडलेले आहे.

काही  संकेतस्थळ ज्यामधून शेअर बद्दल माहिती मिळू शकते :
1) moneycontrol.Com
2) screener.in
3) nseindia.Com
4) bseindia.Com

इत्यादी.

(कृपया नोंद घ्यावी :
ब्रोकर ची नावे व संकेतस्थळ नावे मी आपल्या माहिती करिता दिलेली आहेत. मला त्यांच्या कडून काहीही फायदा मिळत नाही.)
(Please  note: names of broker and websites given here are for your information  and totally  voluntary. I do not get any benefits  from them)

माझे  मत :
लेखकाने अगदी  विस्तृत  असे  विवेचन या पुस्तकामध्ये दिलेले आहे. आपल्या सारख्या नवीन गुंतवणूक दारांसाठी हे एक छान पुस्तक आहे.
आणि जर आपण शेअर मार्केट मध्ये उतरणार असाल तर या पुस्तकामधे एक नजर टाकायला हवी असे मला वाटते.

-आपला आभारी, 
गुरु  बारगजे 
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Book 2: what got you here won't get you there

Book name: what got you here won't get you there
( How successful people become even more successful !)
Author: Marshall Goldsmith

   

                                      

Often we come across books which are full of texts and images claiming they are best in motivation class or self help type but very few of them are practical enough to use them in our lives.
Out of many books I have read so far, I like this book for it's simplicity and to the point practical approach.The way Marshall go through every flaws of human behavior step by step is really worth appreciating.
There is a relation between our behavior and our surrounding. Our behavior,the way we think,the way we interact with other people can be associated with the society in which we live. What happens over time is these things we have been living with start influencing our life. Our behavior changes accordingly. Then one moment comes when all this behavior become a routine and we have absolutely no idea why we behave like this. In response to our behavior people's response got changed and then we start thinking what went wrong.
Marshall's book may help you find what may have gone wrong and what to do to correct it. Like a ready-made solution he gave common twenty habits which drags us back from getting successful. Being successful is not just bind to getting a big paying job or to own something valuable.Success can be of any form. Every individual have different perceptions about success. It depends entirely on what his or her priorities are.
With due respect to author I would like to copy down some of habits that should be avoided to achieve desired results. Like
1.adding too much value to every little thing
2.passing judgement and making destructive comment
3.being negative at Every stage
4. Failing to give proper recognition
5.claiming credit that we don't deserve
6. Making excuses
7 Refusing to express regret
8.not listening to what opposite person saying
9.passing the buck etc

It is much easy to judge others but when it comes to ourselves we fail to do so. In our own eyes we are always correct. But that is not the way how it works.
It's not like we don't know above mentioned points which I have mentioned but what happens is we fail to recognize it. Over time it gets bigger and bigger and bigger. And then it becomes difficult to make them correct.
Let me give some examples:
1) your colleague have taken credit of your work.
2) you are talking to someone an important issue and he is not paying attention at all.
3)you suggested a brilliant idea to someone and then he added something to it and taken whole credit of that.
4) someone is blaming you for everything wrong happens to him and not taking responsibility.
5) you done a brilliant work but still nobody cares what you did even if that was only for them.

Now you must have figured out how it feels when someone does it to us. Not every point mentioned above but we make some mistakes of it unintentionally and still not aware of it. This book made us think about it.
I think we all make mistakes. But they can be corrected if we know what they are.
If you want to correct your behavior first step to it to analyse yourself but with honesty. If you are failing yourself to recognize it then you can take help from someone whom you trust. He or she can be your friend,colleague,parents,spouse or someone you love. But the only thing important in this process is that feedback must be honest and should be given in order to improve and not to criticize.
Now it comes your turn. When your dear one given you the point in which you are bad at then you should not start to judge it. just listen. and be thankful for it. And try to improve in that area.
MARSHALL gave some tips that we can follow:
1) Apologize: apology makes people think that you honestly want to change
2) Work on it: just apology wont work if it is not backed by your work of self improvement. Your work will show people that you are changing.
3) Listen with respect: listen to what people talk about you. what their perspective about you. if they are something related to your rude behavior, try to accept and correct. dont criticize for it.
4) Get feedback: keep taking feedback from people you trust on your behavior. if they suggest something better then take it positively. you must be serious about it.
5) NEVER criticize the person whose whole intention is to help you.

Its take a longer time to change behavior and much more longer to get acknowledge by people. you must be patient throughout this whole process.

In essence, its our behavior in terms of how to deal with people while talking, appreciating,giving feedback,passing judgement etc. if we try to analyze our own behavior then it will be much more easy this transformations become. if we can measure something, we can manage that. and same applies to our behavior also.
i think its a nice self  help book that must be read by those who need to address their flaws.

thanks,
Guru bargaje
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BOOK 1: POWER OF HABIT

Book name: power of habit by Charles duhigg

Publication: random house publication

When we talk with people often we introduce ourselves with our name ,our profession etc. But according to my opinion it is more important to be "what we are?" Than "who we are?".."who we are?" may be defined by our profession,what surname you came up with, your designation,social status but "what we are?" has different dimensions to define.

I think "Actions defines what we are."

Our behavior is not result of just a single incident or event but this is expression of what we are habituated of. Our habits are driving force behind our behavior.
Thus in order to control behavior of our own it's necessary to watch out our habits. If our habits are in a way that it is helping us to develop ourselves then it is a good thing. But what if our habits are not in our control and what if I wish to change it for a better cause? What if we could achieve whatever we desire?
The answer is YES.. you can change it, modify it with some very simple rules given by Charles duhigg.

According to Author
"Change might not be fast and isn't easy .But with time & efforts ,almost any habit can be reshaped."

But to change habits it's important to know how habits work. What is driving factor behind habit change. So, In first chapter, Charles told in a simple way how habits works & how to modify it with simple loop of cue-routine-reward.

According  to Author,
"If you use same cue, and provides the same reward ,you can shift the routine and change habit .Almost any behaviour can be transformed if the cue & reward stay same."

Second part explains how individual habits reflect as a whole and used by organizations. Those organizations which studies human behavior,human psychology & habits of individual tend to have high success rates than it's counterpart.
Specially I liked story of "ALCOA" where a single habit of safety made it a most successful aluminium company of America.
Third part is about how habits of individual reflect in society. Also it contained one chapter explaining neurology behind habits formation and how we get addicted to it.
Most beautiful part of this book is that these are not just ideas of habits but there is given a way to modify it. with his own example author gave the way to change any habit with four point framework. It's really appreciating..

No matter how much hard to change any habit. It can be changed . If we have faith that we can change it. I have witnessed it.

To be short : what should we do finally
1. Identify which habits has to change
2. Identify cue-routine-reward pattern
3. Set goals
4. Have self discipline
5. Have belief that you can achieve it with your will power.

If we could achieve this ,we have that "Power of habit " that will change our life  forever.

Thank you.
- Guru bargaje

My first welcome post

Hello everyone, welcome on my blog.
My name is gurudas bargaje and I am an engineer by profession. I feel that every person needs some encouragement to enhance his or her life. Though everyone wants to be successful and influential but very few takes efforts to make it happen.
So now point is What are the factors which influence our lives? Are they people, incidents,our experiences or some other factors which counts the most?
When I look at some successful people or I heard that someone is became so successful then what I observed that there are some things that are common among them. One of the common thing that I observed that most of them have a habbit of reading. Reading makes them wiser than others. It makes them understand things much better. Books give us much more knowledge than any other person we met.
Reading a book is like talking with author, listening to his or her experiences,views and opinions.
A single thought has power to change entire life. And a good book has potential to give series of thoughts..just imagine how powerful it is when you keep habbit of reading. If we keep reading in our day to day life, we will find ourselves becoming much better than before.
My intention to start this blog is just to share whatever I am reading. What you and I should read in order to make our lives and surrounding much better than before.
So let's get started guys..I will be sharing my views with you and I hope you too will add yours..
Thanks a lot for your support.
- Guru Bargaje